A First Sex Talk for Loving Parents

Remember that sex is a natural, fun, beautiful, and intimate activity.

It is not shameful, dirty, or wrong. 

If you ever have any questions, or are confused or worried about anything, know that we will never condemn you. We love you and want you to be safe, healthy, and whole. If for any reason you aren't comfortable coming to us, please talk with another adult that you trust, either a doctor, a teacher, or another relative that you know very well. 

Sex is an adult activity, meaning that you shouldn't take it lightly. While sex with the right person at the right time can be a wonderful thing; if you are not ready or the person you are with is not being considerate, you can get hurt both emotionally and physically. 

Sex should be with someone you can trust and who cares about you more than themselves. 

Do not have sex with someone who has a disease unless you are fully prepared to live with all of the consequences. If you are not sure if someone is clean, don't be afraid to ask. Both of you are fully responsible for staying physically healthy. If you're not sure that they are telling you the truth, then you have every right to walk away. Don't compromise your safety because you feel pressured, embarrassed or ashamed. 

Sex between a man and woman can make a baby. Unless you are ready to be a parent, never have sex without proper contraceptives. Don't assume you know how it works, consult a health professional and always read all of the instructions before use. 

Remember, most contraceptives do not protect against infections, and none are 100% effective at preventing pregnancy. 

Both people should always communicate their needs, concerns, and desires. Sex can be tricky and uncomfortable, especially when you are learning. Take your time, and never let anyone pressure you into doing something that makes you uncomfortable. 

It is NEVER too late to say no. 

You are the one in charge of safeguarding your whole self: body, mind, and heart. 

Being with the right person makes sex a safe place for both of you to learn and explore. Sex is always better when your partner cares about your well being. This is the best way for both of you to be healthy and happy.

Remember that we love you very much and will always try to do what's best for you. Please remember that we want you to be happy, healthy, and whole. If you ever have any questions or concerns we hope you will feel comfortable talking to us. 

We promise to never shame you, no matter what happens, because you are so special to us. 

So, do you have any questions now? 

If not, that's okay. We'll can talk more about specifics as you continue to grow. 

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